Are you holding yourself back from achieving your goals and dreams? I believe that each of us can accomplish things far beyond what we deem we are capable of. The problem is that our self-limiting beliefs often side track us from getting what we desire.
A self-limiting belief is a group of thought processes and feelings that causes us to maintain the status quo in our lives. Beliefs are formed through repeated thoughts, and the only reason they hold any weight is because you’ve decided or agreed that they are true.
There are many words to describe this – inner critic, comfort zone, saboteur, negative self-talk, and self-doubt. All of these take away our confidence and limit us from moving forward to accomplish what we want.
How to determine when your Self-Limiting Beliefs are running you:
- There is a lot of struggle – “this will be hard”
- You lack confidence in yourself;
- I’m not good enough
- I’m not smart enough
- I don’t deserve it
- I am too young, people won’t take me seriously
- I am too old, it’s too late to start…
- I’m pretty much doomed, I don’t have good luck, problems always follow me.
- You compare yourself to others and convince yourself that they are better
- You are stuck by a seemingly insurmountable barrier
- The same issue presents itself over and over
- You use words such as “I can’t”, “I need to”, or “I have to” vs. “I can”, “I will”, or “I want to”
- There is a fear of failure or “What will people think?”
- You know that you are selling yourself short I’m not important
- making money is a struggle
Beliefs are mental notions and assumptions we have, about ourselves and the world around us, that we hold onto as absolute truths. They are emotional and psychological and often irrational. They are formed through our experiences and interactions with the world. Others simply call them unconscious beliefs. They often do not serve us but rather hold us back from pursuing our dreams and living freely and fully to our potential.
Many of these beliefs were formed and accumulated throughout our childhood. We picked them up through our interactions with others – like when we were scolded for doing something wrong or not doing something the way our parents expected us to. A common resulting belief is I’m not good enough, which then bleeds into other beliefs that affect us during adulthood, like, I’m not capable enough or I’m not talented or I’m stupid.
Relationship based beliefs are also very common, because the events associated with them are often emotionally heightened and leave lasting impressions on our subconscious mind. If we got hurt early on in our dating career, we might end up concluding that we do not deserve a loving relationship, or associate that love is a cause for suffering.
I will work with you and help you turn around any self-limiting belief that you hold through a simple process:
- Establish What Are Your Beliefs?
- Find a Counter Instance
- How Has This Belief Worked Against You?
- Find the Source
- Alternative Meaning
- Eliminate Beliefs
Remember, if we can create the self-limiting belief inside us, then we have the power and capability to modify it. If we want to, we can change our beliefs and thoughts and actions and therefore, change the results. Thus, in a way, we are in control of our destiny.
It’s not what you say out of your mouth that determines your life,
it’s what you whisper to yourself that has the most power.
The worst of all beliefs are self-limiting beliefs. If you believe yourself to be limited in some way, whether or not it is true, it becomes true for you. If you believe it, you will act as if you were deficient in that particular area of talent or skill. Overcoming self-limiting beliefs and self-imposed limitations is often the biggest obstacle standing between you and the realisation of your full potential.
